Love is not just a feeling or a warm fuzzy sensation inside your heart. Love is a behavior, an action, an experience. It is how you demonstrate that warm fuzzy sensation as an interaction between you and another.
Parents will say, “Of course I love my kids.” You know it is the right answer, and it’s true most of the time.
But rather than asking if you love your kids, my question is how do you love your kids? What actions do you take? If love is, as I say, an experience, how do you experience love with your children?
If this question has you stumped, then perhaps my top three ways to love your children will help:
So, even when upset, don’t berate, belittle, or insult your kids. Find ways to correct and direct them, or simply wait to speak until you have relaxed. You may not be able to use loving words in the moment, but you can avoid using hurtful words. This is an act of love!
Building more love in your family will increase amazing behavior. Start building loving habits in your family, one day at a time!
Dr. Marcie Beigel is a behavior specialist based in Brooklyn. She has worked with thousands of families for more than 20 years. Her book “Love Your Classroom Again” is a bestseller, and her new book, “Love Your Family Again,” is available on Amazon. Find out more at DrMar